Gay Cumbria - Support
Here we have provided some support information and articles, we hope you find them useful. Please note that all experiences differ and each situation should be tackled on its own merit, our support articles are for guidance only.
Please follow the links below.
Coming Out | Cottaging/Cruising | Domestic Abuse | Drink Spiking/Date Rape
Homophobia | FFLAG - (Family & Friends of Lesbians & Gays) | In the Closet
Relationship Break Up | Personal Safety Tips
Relationship Break Up
So you’ve broken up with the love of your life and it hurts. What can you do to get through it? Well we’ve put together some survival tips that might just get you back on your feet again.
The first 48 hours are the hardest, give yourself space to cry, eat junk, listen to your favorite “our tune” or just lie on the sofa in a heartbroken coma. If you want to be alone now, then be alone. If you want to invite a fiend over to pick the bones or slag them off then do it. You need to grieve and get rid of your negativity, this is vital if you don’t want to carry emotional baggage around with you.
Force yourself to think that the relationship is over, you have to face it sooner than later, its over and the relationship is dead. Grieve for what it was and try and move on. Its tough, its hard but with the help of friends (and time) you will do it.
After the first week get off the sofa now, its time to take control. Clean your place out of anything that reminds you of your ex. If you come across in two or three years time, it will only serve to reopen old wounds.
If you feel the need to contact them ... resist, this will only set you back. Instead think of all the things that they annoyed you with - the more humorous the better. Pamper yourself and take an extra 20 minutes to get yourself ready for the day. Make plans for the next month with family or friends and stick to them, you need to get out of the relationship routine, and find your own routine now.
Make a list of everything that is good about yourself. By the end of the month you should be well on your way. There will be bumps along the road, and at times it may feel like you have lost everything, but you will live through it. You’ve made it this far and you’ll be a stronger, wiser person because of it.
